on crassness
i am the totally confused product of a semipuritanical (read:strict dad) upbringing and a liberal education, which means that while i have acquired a certain amount of cynicism about things (hello, birds and bees and flowers and trees), and a more liberated(accepting) view about things, i have retained a bit of old-fashioned conservative opinions about how people act and what people say.
like, for example, while it is all well and good to have a great command of the spoken word, and the courage to use that command to speak your mind, you are not given unbridled license to offend people and be hurtful and malicious and, in a word, crass.
there are certain people who seem to enjoy shocking the hell out of people, saying things guaranteed to offend and annoy and irritate.
they talk about sex and the people they've had sex with and the people they'd like to have sex with and they talk about it in the most disgusting of manners, using words that arguably could have been done away with in favor of more refined terms.
while the term "magpakatotoo ka sister" is not lost on me, and certainly i have respect and even admiration for those who speak their minds, i still feel that talking like a guttersnipe when you have had the best education available and enough intelligence and a good vocabulary is not deserving of either respect or admiration. also, talking like a guttersnipe (ooh nice word) just to get a rise out of people, just for the shock factor, is evidence of a lack of consideration for other people and the effort they exert to be decent human beings.
and there are people who can't seem to win an argument without aiming below the belt, who skip the sarcasm and head straight for malice. they bring up hurtful things and even topics way beyond the scope of the issue just to provoke reactions and win debates and even get in on conversations with other people.
which is just plain offensive. i for one am admittedly a malicious being. i can trade insults easily, and most of the time i know how to hurt people i'm arguing with (hello, i have five mouthy sisters and a lwayer for a father) . except, i KNOW what i'm capable of, and i refuse to engage in a bitchfest just to prove a point.
case in point: one day i was hanging out with a couple of guys and teasing one of them about having a crush on my youngest sister. and while we were kidding around about it someone (whose name will be left unsaid) butted into the conversation and, in a word, INSULTED my other sister by saying that she had no friends or something like that. it had no other discernible purpose but to be offensive. and while i wanted nothing more than to shove my fist into his face i held my temper.
and they call ME a bitch?
like, for example, while it is all well and good to have a great command of the spoken word, and the courage to use that command to speak your mind, you are not given unbridled license to offend people and be hurtful and malicious and, in a word, crass.
there are certain people who seem to enjoy shocking the hell out of people, saying things guaranteed to offend and annoy and irritate.
they talk about sex and the people they've had sex with and the people they'd like to have sex with and they talk about it in the most disgusting of manners, using words that arguably could have been done away with in favor of more refined terms.
while the term "magpakatotoo ka sister" is not lost on me, and certainly i have respect and even admiration for those who speak their minds, i still feel that talking like a guttersnipe when you have had the best education available and enough intelligence and a good vocabulary is not deserving of either respect or admiration. also, talking like a guttersnipe (ooh nice word) just to get a rise out of people, just for the shock factor, is evidence of a lack of consideration for other people and the effort they exert to be decent human beings.
and there are people who can't seem to win an argument without aiming below the belt, who skip the sarcasm and head straight for malice. they bring up hurtful things and even topics way beyond the scope of the issue just to provoke reactions and win debates and even get in on conversations with other people.
which is just plain offensive. i for one am admittedly a malicious being. i can trade insults easily, and most of the time i know how to hurt people i'm arguing with (hello, i have five mouthy sisters and a lwayer for a father) . except, i KNOW what i'm capable of, and i refuse to engage in a bitchfest just to prove a point.
case in point: one day i was hanging out with a couple of guys and teasing one of them about having a crush on my youngest sister. and while we were kidding around about it someone (whose name will be left unsaid) butted into the conversation and, in a word, INSULTED my other sister by saying that she had no friends or something like that. it had no other discernible purpose but to be offensive. and while i wanted nothing more than to shove my fist into his face i held my temper.
and they call ME a bitch?
posted by peach at 4:33 AM
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very useful read. I would love to follow you on twitter.
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