shading gray

there are choices that lie in the difficult spectrum of grays that spans the distance between black and white.

i, for one, am a fan of the gray shades. a big fan of them.

but there are decisions to be made in life which lie squarely on either end.

and there can be, even with a lot of effort on one's part, no success in shading them a bit darker or a bit lighter to suit one's needs or desires. there need not even be endless meditation. some decisions, you KNOW to make.

either you cheat or you don't. you help someone to cheat or you don't.

you're a friend or you're not.

you're lying or you're not.

right, wrong. white, black.

no matter how many romantic quotes you take to heart, no matter passionate a love you cite as a defense.

there are some decisions that are despicable, especially when making them was avoidable. hurting other people cannot be justified when the only thing at stake is temporary happiness.

some decisions are indefensible.

when you make them, don't try to justify or defend or deny.

just own up to the decision, and miserable or not, accept whatever consequences there may be.